This happened almost 10 years ago. It was around two months since our wedding. We went out for dinner, had a good time, got out of the restaurant. Our car was parked a bit far. We were walking towards the car park and suddenly I stopped… there was a dog standing on the way. Now dogs and me go a long way back, we dont have a history of getting along.
I’ll give you a little bit background info. Like I’ve told you before, I’ve an irrational fear of almost all animals, especially dogs. I’ve told this to Jose also during our courtship, but he has never seen it firsthand till then.
Coming back to the story, I refused to take another step because of the dog. Jose tried convincing me that he will cover me and take me safely to the car, but I wasnt ready for that. This happened for quite sometime. A watchman of a nearby shop was watching all these things and he decided it was time for him to get involved in the whole drama. He entered with an opening statement “you should trust your husband and go along”!!
Not to mention my irritability at unwanted opinion and advice, that too from a stranger. What increased my agitation was that, Jose got charged hearing his words. You cant blame him also, we were newly married and the thought of his wife not trusting him didnt sit well with him. It was his turn to make another big statement, “if you dont trust me in such small matters, how will you trust me in bigger things”??
Meanwhile a small audience gathered around us to see the whole “thamasha”. I tried whispering to Jose that we will have the “discussion” about trust once we reach home, now he can take me back to the hotel and I’ll wait there for him. Since it was very early days of marriage, he wasn't very familiar with the very popular memo of all time “listen to your wife, she is always right” ;)
Well, it went on for sometime and he slowly understood that he was loosing the battle. Finally, to the utter disappointment of the crowd, he took me back to the hotel.
Fast forward 10 years, when he sees a dog when we are together, he doesn't even bother asking me whether I want to try going that way, he immediately changes the route ;) But I should give it to him, because he converted me from a non-fruitarian to a person who at least eats some fruits. It happened vice versa also, I lost some battles and gained some with him. Whoever said “choose your battles wisely” said it correctly. I think this statement holds true for a peaceful married life.
We celebrated our 10th anniversary on Jan 16th. If you are wondering, why I chose to tell you about picking your battles rather than talking about “everlasting love”, I didn't want to be all mushy here ;) Ok, I’ll say this much… he still makes me feel like the twenty something girl who asked her fiance coyly, “am i pretty” , I think that should sum it up ;)
I didn't think much about the special cake for the occasion. I was sure, I’d be making this cupcake. We both like this very much and every time I ask him what he wants special, he asks me to bake this for him.
We love the caramel icing and it pairs well with this vanilla cake. The cake by itself is fluffy and has nice crumbs. Addition of praline takes it to the next level. I usually make this with the eggless vanilla cupcake, but I wanted to try a different recipe this time and chose this one.
Hope you will like it.